The Third Step Toward Kind Thoughts.
In this message we continue from the previous First Step Toward Kind Thoughts and Second Step Toward Kind Thoughts.
If you have been sincerely performing and experiencing the actions in the first two parts of this three part message series then you are beginning to realize that you really must be in a place where you have only kind thoughts towards the Creator and yourself before kind thoughts manifest outwardly towards all others.
In this Third Step, we examine what it takes to have Kind Thoughts towards others on a consistent moment-by-moment basis while at the same time preserve healthy boundaries so that you do not become harmed.
A prerequisite for Kind Thoughts towards others is the deep understanding and feeling that the Creator, ourselves and all others are One. "Yes, Yes." you impatiently think. "I know this already." But then why do you have unkind thoughts of others? You see when you have unkind thought of others, you are having unkind thoughts towards yourself and the Creator because we are all One!
What is needed first is a way to feel the Oneness within you and with others. This is necessary now to perform a simple Oneness Meditation for you to feel this interconnectedness which feels just like love.
The practical advice here is to: Close your eyes, and breathe deeply and slowly. Inhale then pause for a few beats. Exhale and then pause for a few beats 10 or 15 times. Next, imagine a time in your life where you were totally connected with another - it could be with a puppy or some other pet or a child or a lover or a parent. Go back to this moment in time and feel the overwhelming and heart melting love that you felt. Inhale and feel that Love enter your heart. Keep feeling it and now make the intention to keep that feeling in your heart. Now open your eyes and look around you while still holding that feeling. Notice how this love feeling makes you feel at One with everything that you gaze upon. Keep this feeling with you when you are interacting with others and you will have more and more kind thoughts.
It is natural for this feeling to become lost if you become emotionally triggered or you become tired or hungry or thirsty. Allow the trigger to release from you or take a nap or eat or drink water.
When you become balanced again with emotions and physicality then reset yourself with the Oneness Meditation.
Since we live in a world where we occasionally come across those who are a danger to themselves and others, it is necessary to have Healthy Boundaries while in this state of Oneness and Kind Thoughts.
The first step towards this is to ask for protection from our Creator in the form of a prayer:
"Dear Source please protect this mind. body and soul from all forms of injury and attack for the highest good of all. Thank you. I love you!"
This prayer will steer clear those who would be injurious to you. However, you may have people in your life that you cannot steer clear of that have tendencies to want to control you and others. When you are in a state of Oneness and of Kind Thoughts you can also have healthy boundaries. Ask Source to help you vocalize your limits with the person. Allow yourself, while in a state of Oneness and with Kind Thoughts, to tell the person that what they want you to do is uncomfortable to you and that you have an alternative plan. Then, tell that person what you are comfortable doing and not doing.
Staying in a State and Oneness and Kind Thoughts and setting healthy boundaries at the same time is a challenge. Be comfortable with the fact that this will take time to master. Be comfortable with the fact that you may become triggered and lose that state of Oneness many times before you start to see progress. Progress in this is a matter of degree and over time you will see results.
The practical advice here is to persevere. Ask the Creator for help in maintaining the strength and willingness to keep performing this every day. Every morning say this prayer, "Dear Creator please help me maintain the strength and courage to get back into the state of Oneness and Kind Thoughts throughout the day even after I fall out of it. Thank you, Creator. I love you!"
Our Creator invites you to call for help throughout the day. Creator is willing, compassionate and happy to help each and every one of us because we are it's Children.
The First Step Toward Kind Thoughts.
The Purpose of Spiritual Transformation is the Natural Manifestation of only Kind Thoughts.
How can this be achieved? It certainly sounds like a fantasy. I can hear your thoughts:
"How about a murderer? Should I have kind thoughts about him or her? How about a mass murderer?"
Certainly it will take some time to get to this place of only kind thoughts. Consider this a journey. It requires a bit of traveling on your part. It may seem like a long journey. It is for many.
Every journey, however, starts with a first step. That first step in this journey is to start having only kind thoughts about yourself. Why is this so important to have kind thoughts about self?
Have you ever met a person that was very angry regarding themselves? Have you witnessed how they would berate themselves and then turn this anger toward others and transfer the hate and frustration outward? This is what we do as humans when we hate and are unkind to ourselves - we turn it onto others. This is called projection. How many times have you seen a person accuse another person of certain things that the accused is totally innocent of? Projection onto another is the manifestation of self hate.
When we become kind to ourselves, the same thing happens. We now start to project that kindness onto others. It is a gradual process - don't expect a complete transformation in a day!
Do you wish to try this experiment on yourself? Would you like to try and be kind to yourself and see how it affects your relations with others?
Here is how you can start the process. As with any process, instant results are not to be expected. A process is a lot like washing clothing. It takes time for the washer machine to work through it's cleaning and rinsing process before the job is done. This process also requires time.
The first part of the Be Kind to Self Process is to recognize the types of expectations that you place on yourself. Expectations are tricky. We often have many. They are usually associated with the many different roles that we play throughout the day. For example, a man who is married will have the role as a husband. Chances are, the role of husband has created expectations within the man as to what a good husband is. Many times these expectations are distortions that are not even recognized by the man's wife. A great way to expose such distortions is to list down all the expectations that one has as a husband or spouse and discuss them with your partner. Your partner will quickly tell you what expectations are realistic and what aren't.
This perspective will be useful for you because after listing out as many self imposed expectations as possible the next step is to throw them all away. Surrender them to the Creator and thank the Creator for taking them away. Expectations create anger and hostility when the expectations aren't met. Expectations are the root of dissatisfaction with self. Simply throw them all away and adopt a simple strategy - just do the best that you can at any moment in time. If the best that you can at any moment in time is less than spectacular because you are hungry or tired or distracted, then so be it. If it's the best that you can summon at the moment then how can you berate yourself?
If it was not the best that you can do at the moment, then forgive yourself for the laziness and try again in this now moment to do your best.
Using this simple strategy will free you up from the self imposed expectations that you then use to berate yourself with. You will feel more free and more kind to yourself. This is the first step toward only kind thoughts.
The Second Step Toward Thinking only Kind Thoughts will appear in the next article.
Every day, Archangels, Jesus, or Ascended Masters dictate to C Louis Osburn words of Wisdom from the Heavenly Realms that are filled with Love and Light. Drink in this Wisdom and find yourself lifted to a better place with your True Self living a joyous life from the Heart.